Thomas J. Jameson

“My wife and I moved our 3 boys to the Big Island in the last year because we wanted less stress for us and our kids, a life full of outdoor adventure and a safer environment for my wife who suffers from complex post traumatic stress disorder. I wanted to find a new therapist to help me become a better father and husband. I had worked with a wonderful therapist back on the mainland but felt I needed something different. I was referred to Tom from my wife’s therapist. He caught my attention once I looked at his web site about the “Men’s work” he did with his clients. “Men’s work” is not normal therapy that most of us are used to, but is exactly what I was looking for. Tom and I have now been working for 8 months together. I started with Tom really struggling to help my wife deal with her cptsd and my ability to communicate in a positive way to our children. My journey with Tom has been incredible and already changed my life forever. He has helped me take ownership for the first time in my life for all my actions and words I use with my family. He’s made me realize it’s ok to have me time and how this helps me be more patient in my day to day life and increases my ability to be truly be there for my family. I now feel like a more connected dad with our kids and a better support spouse for my wife. I have the best communication I have ever had with my family. Our kids are calmer (we have way less family arguments) and are adjusting better to island life. It’s exciting to know this is just the beginning of my journey with Tom! I wouldn’t have come this far without his great questions he asks me, his empathy, his passion, and the accountability that he holds me to. ”

“Having worked closely with Tom as a colleague I can attest to his professionalism and absolute competence as a therapist. His many strengths include directness, thoroughness, and empathy. Tom will forever be at the top of my referral network.”

“My husband and I just made 20 years of marriage and all I wanted was out of it. I had been unhappy for a long time and I couldn’t fully understand why or put it into words. Everything was fine on the outside but I was deeply sad and lonely on the inside. I searched online for a marriage counselor and Tom’s profile came up. After trying a couple of other therapists before him that didn’t work for me, I decided to try one last time. After just the first session with Tom, I felt encouraged, heard, not dismissed. He matched feelings with words, and summed up my situation perfectly. On top of that, he laid out a specific plan on how the counseling would proceed. This lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. Over the past 6 months of working with Tom, he helped uncover the root cause of my unhappiness, helped me clarify my needs in the marriage and opened up a whole new level of communication with my husband that never existed before. Tom is authentic, self aware and dives deep into truth. I am very grateful to have found him!”

“I came to Tom specifically because his description in Psychology Today’s registry said he specialized with Men’s issues. As a 36-year old father of one son whose own dad died at a young age, I had come to believe my major pain points in life constellated around my confusion about what it means to be a man in today’s world after having no consistent, reliable, or trustworthy example of health in a male role model. So, I gave him a call. I’ve been with Tom for a few months now, and I am so taken aback by the quality of our sessions and the pace of the growth I’ve experienced. I have been eager to do work that will yield results, and Tom has been able to point me toward books that have yielded great insights about my state of being. When we talk, it becomes clear to me that he has considered my inner life with a careful, empathetic mind, and understands my difficulties with his heart as well as his intellect. If you’ve had many therapeutic experiences, you will appreciate how rare that is. This type of serious-minded, grounded, deeply considered and hopeful approach is what I have been looking for many years.”